Memorial Day

Version:1.0 StartHTML:0000000182 EndHTML:0000010320 StartFragment:0000001515 EndFragment:0000010284 SourceURL:file:///MacBook/Users/macbook/Desktop/Memorial%20Day%205%2F31.doc

Memorial Day and my grandson’s birthday/5/31 to Linda

            Our Memorial Day celebrations do not include decorating graves anymore.

Yes, we hold those who have entered a new dimension of their lives in the Light just about every day we talk about their exploits, like they were the Viking Sagas, and some of us talk to them all the time if necessary.

            Around Memorial Day or on the day we celebrate Life. My grandson’s birthday, spring, by having a huge family and sometimes friend’s picnic. The Highlight of which is Games.

            Not tennis, softball, Hunger Games, but games of laser tag, maybe, paint guns, etc. Number one grandson writes a playbook all year long. He has lots of notebooks with every conceived move in every game he has thought up. He then divides the entire guests into two teams. He sets up forts, cardboard figures, all sorts of things I know nothing about. Dogs are chained up, those that aren’t already hiding under beds because they have suspected something in his pre-game preparations.

            Son-in- law and daughters mowed yards, pick up trash, cook, carry in food, and try to remove any ungame debris. Collect chairs for the non-combatants and the combatants when they wear out. Sometimes a radio for music. My son-law cooks the hot dogs; hamburgers and whatever else can go on the grill. I’m pretty much a vegetarian, except on this day. By the time food is ready I will eat whatever. I am tired and hungry.

 I sometimes clean house in case it rains or someone wants a drink of water or use the facilities. This year I only got the kitchen and bathroom unpiled. The rest of the house is being used for sorting books for the Book Room, which I hope to open next Thursday, Maybe. So I just told the gang, only two rooms. It didn’t rain which was good. Very Good.

On that day we play, eat, and talk and share. We don’t always get together the whole entire bunch at Christmas, Easter or Thanksgiving anymore because no one’s house is big enough. So this is our bash.

On the day of the big event grandson holds a strategic meeting with the combatants. He assigns teams, explains the rules, the strategy, through I understand that each team is allowed to make their own rules. The little ones, from barely able to walk, set in awed silence and listen and on every word. He is their leader. They respect him and want to do well.  He assigns them accordingly. This year the youngest in the games was 7. A younger child just ate.

     There is break, maybe, to eat. My grandson never eats. Once in a blue moon. We usually don’t have them on Memorial day anyway. Then they play. Until everyone is beyond exhaustion. Mean while my son-in-law cooks and cooks. We eat, drink pop and iced tea.  We don’t drink much alcohol. Never at family gatherings. This is too serous for that. Most of us don’t drink anyway. But if we did we would put up a sign, no drinking allowed. I mean minds must be clear. The horses hide in the woods. The cats scatter somewhere. Sometimes it is days before they appear again. The squirrel’s stay in trees, the raccoons and rabbits stay in their little lairs, the birds get as high in their trees as they can go. They tweet, out warnings and I think a lot of cursing.

     The final act of the day is to gather around a fire and fix somemores, or toast our own hot dogs, and talk, tell stories, have grave political, food, or health, conversations, exchange recipes, ghost stories, or just plain bitch about the world. One by one people disappear into their cars and go home.

            I am always the die-hard. I sit around the fire until the fire burns out. This year my grandson stayed awhile and we talked about the world situation and why local, state and federal politicians do not listen to our wisdom.  Some new friends arrived and we talked about religion and how they are the same and different. They left. He and I talked a long time. The he left. He works long hard shifts and we don’t get to talk much. I value his opinions and his love. I always sit up until the fire is out. Sometimes it is almost daylight.

        I sit up because I think of all my family who aren’t with us in physical form any longer. There is no longer any relative that I know who is older and still alive than me. No one to call to ask how they fixed that pie or cake of if they remember what grandma or uncle so and so said at Christmas or Memorial. No memories of my family to listen to.

        So I think of them and discuss them with their Shades that come to sit around the fire (don’t deny it. We all do it.) And I remember. My memorial and their Memorial is their lives as I observed them growing up, the wonderful things they taught me. The genes I think I inherited.  Reproduced in my children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and the fact that we gather for our own Memorial day as part of a celebration for a grandson, nephew that some of them never held in their arms, sang a song to, told stories but somehow has a little of the tribe inside him. So do we all. Happy birthday to anyone having birthdays around this time. Happy Memorial Day who all we remember in our family and to every man and woman who fought and died for this country. Also, since I am a Quaker, to all of those who died for peace for everyone who worked so hard to bring food, clothing, jobs and everyone else people need to survive and have peace. And who died in prison for their faith and beliefs. Such simple humanitarian beliefs, like not taking off their hats to any man because no one man was better than another. Not swearing on the Bible because the Bible said you should not do that. Being against slavery because no one should own another person. And maybe one of the most controversial, not fighting in war. They taught kings make war. Men don’t. In those times all of these beliefs took courage. Some still do.  Some seem so ridiculous now. You have to wonder if they didn’t help freedom of religion in this and other countries, make the world a beet place.  We don’t swear on the bible anymore in court we affirm. Men don’t have to remove their hats, in the presence of “their betters”. We don’t believe, at least o openly, in our betters. And war is still with use. But kings still make wars and men and women  fight them is still with us. It all depends on who the kings are.  Shalom.